My ex-husband and I were divorced 10 months ago after 22 years of marriage. We have 6 children. My ex-husband was abusive to me – emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially, and sexually and to our children – physically, emotionally, psychologically. I have a friend who is a mystic and I know she hears directly from the Lord because she has called me less than an hour after I have been praying in the adoration chapel with an answer to my questions to the Lord without knowing anything about my prayer or the situation. The Lord has told her that my ex-husband is a Narcissist. I have recently spent a lot of time learning about Narcissitc Personality Disorder and now I understand how very toxic and detrimental he is to the children.
As a result of his abuse and admission of domestic violence, he has lost his parenting time with our oldest of 6 children, Olivia. She has been diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and obsessive compulsive disorder with religious scrupulosity as a result of his abuse. I am asking for prayers for her complete recovery – physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually. I also ask for healing from generational curses and for her soul wounds to be healed.
My ex-husabd is now planning on taking me back to court to pursue 50-50 custody of the remaining 5 children – with the children going back and forth every week. My ex-husband moved into a new house yesterday that is only 6 houses down the road from me and I am concerned that the court will grant him 50-50 custody because they will think this arrangement will be good for the children. His move into this new house is very unsettling and creating some anxiety for Olivia.
We do not have an annulment yet, but he has already started dating a women (who is not Catholic and doesn’t understand) and has immersed the children into this new relationship, spending weeks with them at her condo in Florida (we live in Michigan) and telling the children that someone only needs an annulment if they are going to get re-married. He also took his girlfriend with him and the children on a fun family vacation to Disney World. She spends weekend with them at least one a month during his parenting time as he currently gets the children every other weekend. He is now going to a different Catholic Church now that he girlfriend is going with him as I believe he is avoiding our priest who knows he does not have an annulment – and he is demonstrating to our children how to sneak around and get away with something. I am very concerned about the example he is giving our children about the sanctity of marriage and the lies he is telling them. I also am very concerned that he is try to get 50-50 custody of our other 5 children as I believe he is detrimental to their emotional, psychological, and spiritual well being. There have been many other issues he has caused that have not been beneficial for the children – more than I can go into in this email. I am asking for prayers that he does not prevail in is attempts to gain more custody with the children because I believe he is toxic and detrimental to them in many ways. I pray that things that are hidden in the darkness will be revealed in the light so his girlfriend, the children, and the court will see the man that he truly is and not the man he pretends to be. I pray that his efforts to punish me for leaving him will not prevail and that he is ultimately led to salvation. I pray that truth, goodness, righteousness, justice, and Godliness will overcome in this situation because I believe if these things win, then what is best for the children will take place.
Also, on a side note – if he gets 50-50 custody, he will no longer have to pay child support, which will impact me financially in a huge way and affect my ability to pay my bills. I was left with the debt from our marriage and soon after the divorce, he got a new job making 3 tines what he was making before and now makes almost twice as much as me, yet does not want to pay for the children’s sports, counseling bills for our daughter, and clothes for our children – he thinks I should supply the clothes for the children during his parenting time. I am not sure if I will be able to keep my home without the financial support from child support. So this is another reason why I am concerned about him getting 50-50 custody.
